How To Text Girls (And Get Them To Hangout With You Fast)

Welcome back guys. Tonight you will learn how to text girls and have them actually want to hang out with you, instead of just using you for attention.

None of us really like texting, but it’s part of the annoying sequence of events you have to take to hang out/hook up with chicks.

 

Girls on the other hand love texting because they get to use their vagina power every second of the day and receive an endless amount of attention.

In reality, texting is just a huge game. It’s a game within “The Game”. It’s a game that shows who wants the other more, ruled by response times and smiley faces.

And unfortunately for us, it’s a very tricky game.

How To Text A Girl

Anyway, before you text a girl, there’s two things you have to do. Identify the type of girl you’re talking to, and define the relationship you currently have with her.

Step #1 – Do you already know the girl you’re about to text?

You must first ask yourself if you’ve met the girl before. If yes, did you meet her at a party, through cold approach, or have you been friends for awhile?

If you met her at a party or through cold approach, you have a very short time window to meet up with her. Since she has so many options from guys she already knows, most girls don’t even give “randoms” a chance. And the ones that do get a chance, are ones that strike immediately before they forget about you.

The best case scenario is already hooking up with them before you get their number, so that way you don’t have to put up with her bullshit texting game. But, I understand that it’s easier said than done.

 

Number from a girl at a bar/party:

So say you got her number at a party. She likely got at least 5 other guys’ numbers and probably made out with a few if not slept with one.

Pro tip: Making out with a girl doesn’t guarantee you anything. Most girls these days will hook up with multiple dudes in one night and not give a shit about you later. If you don’t go home with her, you’re still considered a random.

 

Anyway, when you text her the next day, she probably doesn’t remember you.

Don’t text her, “Hey it’s Brian from last night.” Say something mysterious like, “Did we make out last night?”

This conveys to her that you were drunk and don’t remember her either. That’s a good thing. It also shows her that you were having fun/hooking up with other girls/not obsessing over her.

 

This works especially well if you actually did make out with her and she remembered it. She will feel less cool than you, which is ultimately what you should be aiming for.

But, she’s most likely going to answer with, “Who is this”.

DO NOT TELL HER WHO YOU ARE. 

 

Keep it mysterious and keep her on her toes. Tell her you think you met her at the party last night.

She’ll be very curious and will probably start asking for a picture of you or your Snapchat/Instagram.

Send her a picture, but make sure it’s very good. Do not send it if you’re not 100% confident in it. Also tell her to send you one too.

 

After that just continue with a flirty conversation but do not say anything about hanging out. All girls get is guys asking to hang out. You’re going to do the opposite and make her wonder if you’re really interested in her.

End the conversation and text her something random the next day. After you’ve talked for a little bit, then you can push for the meet up if she hasn’t already. Just don’t do it the first time you text her.

 

Number from a girl through cold approach:

Getting a girl’s number through cold/warm approach is a little bit different than through a party because the girl knows you’re at least somewhat interested in her.

I suggest telling the girl to take your number and to “text me your name”. That way you know that the girls who text you their name, are at least somewhat interested in you.

 

Also, you obviously can’t play the whole mysterious card because both of you were sober.

After she texts you her name, wait a few hours and start a conversation with her later that night. Make it flirty and fun – I’ll have an entire text thread later on, so you know exactly what to text a girl. And once again, don’t push for the hang out right away. Continue texting for a few days before bringing it up.

 

A girl you’re already friends with:

If you’re already friends with a girl and played it according to the Social Circle Game, she either just thinks of you as a friend which is fine, or just doesn’t want to make the first move.

You can fix this problem by going out with her. Invite her to the bar, a party, or if you think she likes you, your place.

Now what I do with girls I’m friends with, is that I stick to strictly calling them. Why text when you don’t have to? Calling is so much easier and straight to the point without any fluff, and you’ll become much better friends as well.

 

So if you’re bored one night and want someone to hang out with, just give the girl a call. If she doesn’t answer, wait 5 minutes and text her, “call me”. If you’re really friends, they will always call back after that.

Also, you can text her every once in awhile about stuff YOU are doing. I will explain the reasoning behind this in the next section. Do this only if she texts you first on occasion.

Step #2 – What type of girl is she?

After you’ve determined your relationship with the girl, you now have to see what type of girl she is.

We can narrow it down into two basic categories.

  • Girl A – Girls who are insecure, nice, and good texters.  
  • Girl B – Girls who are attention whores, bitchy, and shitty texters.

Girl A is obviously the kind of girl you want to be dealing with. They will put effort into the conversation, text back quickly, and use a lot of “lols” and smiley faces. They genuinely care about you and they make it a lot easier to get to know and eventually hang out with. These girls are rare.

Girl B on the other hand is most girls these days. Especially girls with iPhones. It’s almost amazing how different/worse a girl is if she has an iPhone versus any other phone. They will take forever to respond, give one word texts, and usually won’t give two shits about you. These girls are often just using you for attention. There are some exceptions though, some girls are genuinely busy/bad texters.

 

In most cases, if you come across Girl B, I recommend pushing for the hang out immediately. They are more likely to meet up quickly than Girl A, but also more likely to stop talking to you. Your chances with them are so low anyway that you might as well go for the hail-mary.

The good news is, if they do meet up with you that quick, you can almost guarantee a hook up.

If Girl B gives you bullshit answers or “maybe”, just swipe your finger to the right and click delete. She is gone from your life.

Pro tip: Never actually add a girl to your contacts unless you’re positive you want her in your life. Until she proves herself to you, she’s just a random number (literally).

 

If you get lucky and run into Girl A, follow the steps in the previous section and text her depending on how you met her.

Now onto the exciting part – example text threads.

What To Text A Girl (Example Conversations):

In this important section, you’ll learn all about how to text girls by reading some real life examples from my life. Use my general vibe when thinking about what to text a girl the next time you’re stuck.

Example #1  – How to text a girl you just met

A little background on this girl; I met her while delivering cookies. We had a real flirty vibe going and she paid by credit card and drew a dick where her signature was supposed to be. I forgot to give her my number so I took a huge risk and texted her from her order receipt. I was sure this girl liked me though and I was right.

 

The next day I called her at 4:30 and she didn’t answer. I Immediately deleted her number off my screen. I couldn’t care less.

But then later that night….

I have a no tolerance policy regarding bullshit so I never answered and once again deleted her number off my screen.

If you hadn’t noticed, this text thread show a lot of important things.

Firstly, when she didn’t answer my call, I didn’t freak out like most guys do and text her needy shit or call her again later. Obviously girls are used to loser guys all the time, and when she realized I didn’t give a shit about her, she texted me later that night.

She wasn’t busy for 5 hours, she was testing me on my neediness and I passed. The ONLY reason she texted me is because I was so unlike most other guys who would’ve blown up her phone when she didn’t answer.

 

Then, when I didn’t text her back at night – she began to worry. “Oh shit, I’m talking to a cool guy and I blew it! Fuck, I hope he texts me back.”

I guarantee that’s what was going through her head all night. That’s what we do when girls don’t text us back – girls do the same thing.

And that is why she texted me again in the morning. She really didn’t want me to stop talking to her, but little did she know it was too late.

 

This shows the power of an ignored text, something that girls rarely have to deal with.

And if I wanted to, I could’ve said literally anything to her second text and she would’ve replied immediately. I would’ve possessed all the power in the conversation but I just didn’t care.

Pro tip: A girl you just met will not text you more than twice in a row after you’ve ignored her text.

 

Example #2 – How to ask a girl to hang out with you

This second example is a girl I hooked up with from online dating. This girl also perfectly describes a “Type A” girl. Here’s the whole conversation from after I got her number to when I went and picked her up.

  

  

  

  

 

After she said that she was about to call me I called her and we talked on the phone for 30 minutes. It’s absolutely crucial to talk on the phone with girls you haven’t met in person before. It’s even more crucial to make sure you have a LONG conversation. This will significantly reduce flakes.

You also don’t want to meet up with a girl without hearing her voice for your own sake as well. You don’t want to waste your time on a catfish or a girl who is weird as fuck. Texting won’t show a girls personality, but a phone call definitely will.

 

Another huge thing that never gets discussed is the idea of how you word your texts. I hear a lot of guys say, “Ask her questions, girls love to talk about themselves.”

False. That is the furthest thing from the truth. Consciously girls love to talk about themselves, but subconsciously they hate it. And the subconscious is what counts. Deep down, girls want a man to invest in and encompass her thoughts. Notice how in this conversation most of what I say does not end in a question. I’m forcing her to invest and contribute to the conversation.

This is how you get girls to have feelings for you in both real life and texting. This is why she met up with me.

If I had just asked her questions she would’ve just answered the questions.

Nothing would’ve been accomplished.

 

In addition, look at how the conversation spanned over two days. I didn’t immediately ask her to hang out like most guys would, I let her develop a crush on me. And then I when I did push for the meet up, I went hard. I wouldn’t take no for an answer and she knew it.

She also probably wouldn’t have met up with me if she didn’t hear my voice and see a different picture of me. You usually have to go through this whole sequence of events to meet up with girls online, so be prepared to put in a lot of effort.

 

Lastly, it’s important to note that she was texting back immediately and I was texting back anywhere from 10-30 minutes. This drives girls nuts (in a good way).

The longer you take to reply, the faster the girl will reply, and the more they will worry whether you’re going to text them back or not. When we met in person she even said that I take forever to reply – she was clearly sweating me throughout our entire conversation.

And if you want to know the result – we hooked up about 5 minutes after she got to my room.

How To Text A Girl You Like

In terms of texting girls you actually like, a lot of people think theres a different strategy involved, when in fact this is not the case.

When you’re texting a girl you like, be sure to text her the exact same way as you would any other girl.

This will keep her off the proverbial pedestal, and prevent you from getting oneitis and ruining your chances with her.

Final Thoughts

Alright guys, that’s it for tonight.

This is the longest article I’ve ever written and I feel like it’s some of my best work. I hope you now have a better understanding on how to text girls. Leave me your thoughts below and any questions you may have.

Have a good weekend everyone – start texting right and you’ll get the hang outs and hook ups!

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By | 2017-09-19T07:17:53+00:00 April 10th, 2015|Girls|38 Comments

38 Comments

  1. dbadbadba April 10, 2015 at 10:37 PM - Reply

    My dick got hard reading this. Good shit. You got a new fan. I’m going to look for some articles about talking to girls, hopefully you got some.

  2. Loser 2 Winner
    Loser 2 Winner April 10, 2015 at 10:55 PM - Reply

    Haha! Best comment ever dude thank you.

    I got a bunch of articles on girls. Most will have different shit about talking to them sprinkled in. Check out the girls category – http://loser2winner.com/category/girls/

  3. David April 11, 2015 at 9:05 AM - Reply

    Some great advice on this article! I have serious problems with girls flaking via the whole texting thing. You mentioned some things that I realise I do, and I seriously need to avoid in the future:

    – I text back to quickly (I don’t show myself as a ‘challenge’)
    – I try to set up a date straight away, instead of waiting a couple of days

    In an ideal world we wouldn’t need texting guides, we could just arrange a date, the girl would show up and that would be it lol. Instead we have to go through a whole complicated routine and try and figure out how a girls mind works 😛 Awesome guide though, gonna try it out tomorrow when I get some new numbers tonight!

    • Loser 2 Winner
      Loser 2 Winner April 11, 2015 at 1:01 PM - Reply

      Thx dude!

      Ya texting back quickly will hurt you a lot. Taking forever to respond is one of the best things you can do for girls to sweat you and separate you from all the other losers. Same thing with not pushing for the date immediately.

      These 2 things alone will totally change how girls talk to you. Let me know how those new numbers go 🙂

  4. David April 12, 2015 at 7:53 PM - Reply

    This stuff works great!

    Used your “Did we make out last night?” line on a number I got, and it worked a charm. I also waited around 10-15 mins to reply to each of her texts, and she replied straight away to mine! 😀

    This resulted in an awesome date (with no bullshit or flaking), and it’s the first one I’ve been on since breaking up with my ex. Can’t thank you enough Dude, you know what you’re talking about!

    • Loser 2 Winner
      Loser 2 Winner April 13, 2015 at 2:34 AM - Reply

      Fuck yea dude!

      Pretty powerful stuff huh? It’s the simplest little things that make a huge difference.

  5. Nic Kay September 2, 2015 at 11:36 AM - Reply

    That’s great brah, thnx for the article

  6. Jumpman Lane October 25, 2015 at 3:54 AM - Reply

    The trick is to just use text TO meet up. By the time you got a girls number your focus should be to GET into the girls presence. Then use texting as enhancements

    • Patrick September 14, 2017 at 1:17 PM - Reply

      HI I’m new to texting!

  7. Alex Nahian November 7, 2015 at 7:22 AM - Reply

    This is genuine shit and works very well . Can’t thank you enough! Well it would be even more helpful if you could post a conversation with an example of Girl B. Hope to see more articles in the future

    • Loser 2 Winner
      Loser 2 Winner November 7, 2015 at 5:21 PM - Reply

      Thx Alex I appreciate it.

      The thing is that conversations with Girl B’s aren’t even rly conversations. You don’t want to be dealing with those kind of girls.

      Maybe I’ll do a sequel to this post though with a collection of Girl B texts.

      Welcome to L2W!

  8. jack daniels November 10, 2015 at 4:34 PM - Reply

    Your awesome dude. This article was more worthful than those shitty advices on the internet.I am more curious about the Type B girl since i usually get one word replies from them mostly . it would be really helpful if you could post examples with a Girl Type B situation . Anyways man great work consider yourself getting a new fan!

    • Loser 2 Winner
      Loser 2 Winner November 10, 2015 at 10:10 PM - Reply

      Thanks Jack.

      I’ll be doing a sequel to this post with some type b stuff.

      But, like i said in the article, don’t waste your time with these girls. stop texting them.

  9. Jordan November 23, 2015 at 4:11 AM - Reply

    Greatttt article

  10. Alex December 10, 2015 at 2:43 AM - Reply

    Amazing article man, worth the read. Although i am confused about a girl i want to hangout and hookup with again ( madeout with her once at a party and got her #). I texted her every now and then but she gives me somewhat mixed signals. Iv’e invited her to parties but she’s not comfortable enough to hang around my grade ( I’m in highschool). Another time we made plans for her coming over to watch a movie in which she agreed to but ultimately changed her plans and went to a hockey game with a friend who bought her a ticket… she appoligized saying she really wants to hangout with me and get to know me. So yeah i stopped texting her and after 2 weeks she texted me trying to start up a conversation. I’m debating inviting her out to drink or something but don’t know if i should, or how to approach it without making her dry or evident to flake. Sorry for the giant paragraph haha just a little confused on this current situation.

    • Loser 2 Winner
      Loser 2 Winner December 10, 2015 at 2:22 PM - Reply

      Continue to not text her first. Wait for her to text you and have her set up the plans to chill. Talk to other girls as well.

      You have the power now, now u just gotta hold it.

  11. Tanjit Dakhmal December 20, 2015 at 7:59 AM - Reply

    I almost always start texting the girl because I’m pretty sure she won’t and I don’t want to lose the contact. How can I get her to want to text me first?

    • Loser 2 Winner
      Loser 2 Winner December 20, 2015 at 12:39 PM - Reply

      That has nothing to do with texting. she has to like you first.

      There’s a lot that goes into being attractive to a girl. Check out some of my other articles.

  12. Nick February 2, 2016 at 9:37 AM - Reply

    If the girl from yik yak actually came out with you for ice cream or dinner, would you have paid for her or no?

  13. Nick February 2, 2016 at 9:57 AM - Reply

    Also what did you talk to her about in those 30 mins? I don’t wanna flood her with personal questions. And do you have any example approaches of Type B girls that you fucked?

    • Loser 2 Winner
      Loser 2 Winner February 4, 2016 at 7:47 PM - Reply

      I don’t really remember, just general bullshit.

      Ur right tho, don’t ask questions. Just make random statements and tease her.

      And nah I don’t have any examples of type b. I’m way too lazy to put any effort into them.

  14. Al April 24, 2016 at 11:12 PM - Reply

    Hey Brian
    So I saw this cute girl with a (girl) friend of mine on snap chat. I then said your friend is cute. Her friend the replied saying “thanks you too.” So I found the girl on Instagram and sent her a dm asking for her snapchat. We have been talking for about 4 days now and I can’t tell if she is playing hard to get or ignoring me because she will send me a snap I will wait around 5-10 minutes to reply then she will respond pretty fast and this cycle will continue to go on(with her taking 4 min or less to respond and me taking 6 mins or longer to respond) for about 10 to 15 snaps then BOOM she will just stop replying and then hit me up the next day. I really want to meet up with her in person but don’t want to sound too forward. What should I do??? Please help!
    Thanks

    • Loser 2 Winner
      Loser 2 Winner April 25, 2016 at 8:45 AM - Reply

      I have no experience with snapchat but i would just do what she’s doing. stop replying after awhile. u need to regain control and start making her worry if ur going to respond. If u have the power she will ask u to hang out.

  15. Joseph June 3, 2016 at 6:00 AM - Reply

    Hey doode! Great article. I just want to ask you how do I meet up with a female friend I’ve known for around 5 years. But we haven’t met each other in almost 3 years now. But we text occasionally. She’s really shy and an introvert btw.

    • Loser 2 Winner
      Loser 2 Winner June 3, 2016 at 3:01 PM - Reply

      Thx Joseph.

      Increase the frequency of texting and eventually get her on the phone.

      After that call her like once a week and then after a few weeks schedule a hang out

  16. Souvik June 27, 2016 at 1:37 PM - Reply

    man this is the most awesome article…..looks like u can deal with type a girls in a very good way…….I hope I was as cool as u are….anyway this article helped me a lot……thanks a lot……

    oh and ur chats were damn awesome……I hardly get girls like type a…..

    • Loser 2 Winner
      Loser 2 Winner June 27, 2016 at 4:25 PM - Reply

      Hey Souvik thx a lot man.

      I’m not that cool though haha. You can definitely get to where I am if you put in the work.

  17. Luke July 6, 2016 at 4:09 PM - Reply

    Hey man, been texting this girl and I had the last text and she hasn’t responded. I want to text her and say “°Hey what are you up to tonight? Then ask her to hangout” But I hate texting first especially after they don’t text back after the last Convo. Tips for a better message. Keep in mind we’ve already been on a date and I stayed at her house in her bed(haven’t fucked yet, just other shit)
    Thanks man

    • Loser 2 Winner
      Loser 2 Winner July 6, 2016 at 6:56 PM - Reply

      Whens the last time you texted her?

      You’re right – you don’t want to text her again after she ended the previous convo.

      If it’s been awhile give her a call. Tell her you guys are hanging out. Keyword = Tell.

  18. Avi July 27, 2016 at 12:25 PM - Reply

    Hey Man, i like this girl and she knows it as i told her last month. However, she is not ready for a relationship as of now and wants to concentrate on her career. Anyways we are still in touch as before, and we speak once in a week and exchange a few messages. I asked her out last Saturday but she couldn’t due to her nephew’s B’day. Dropped her a text on Sunday to which she replied on Tuesday. I replied after like one hour just to show that am not that desperate to reply to her texts. Did exchange a few messages, didn’t get a response for the last text. What do i do now? Weekend is coming, so should i call her and ask her out again? or just wait for her to contact me?

    I really hate these games :/

    • Loser 2 Winner
      Loser 2 Winner July 27, 2016 at 4:29 PM - Reply

      Hey Avi,

      The biggest mistake you made was telling her that you like her. That pretty much ended the game.

      You gotta let her go, as the only chance of something ever happening will be if she hits you up.

  19. Vikki July 28, 2016 at 11:22 PM - Reply

    hi, I met this girl on a shooting..she’s lead actress in it…we hit it off well..She even told me abt how she was friends with a guy n they had sex after 7 years of friendship just for benefits n afterwards they developed feelings ..Now guy is out of country n with other girl n she’s still friends with him. She doesn’t believes in marriage and all. but she’s very open n loves doh. How do I escalate d game to get her

  20. Chu Kem November 3, 2016 at 8:33 AM - Reply

    If you’re going to learn how to text a girl, you absolutely need to make sure that you do not send an explicit image. Even if you get one first, avoid this like the plague. This is something that no girl or woman likes, with very few exceptions.
    Ask how her day has been going, and what the highlight was. Ask an open ended question as you get to know her, including what her favorite books, movies, and records are. The more you can just ask questions and reply a bit, the longer she’ll want to text.
    Never reply in a hurried manner. Don’t push the envelope, don’t panic, and don’t try to insinuate that you’re waiting. You’ll need to have a lot more patience than most. The more patient you are, the better off your conversations will go down the line.
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  21. JV December 14, 2016 at 11:46 PM - Reply

    Hey man, wow you’re probably the best I’ve read and can relate to..

    Hope you can give me a sense of guidance here: I’ve known this girl for 7 years as an aquantaince.. we went to the same college but rarely saw her..have some mutual friends. We went out once two years ago and texted for about a month and I completely stopped (I got back w/ an ex). Two years later I finally got a hold of her. She wasn’t showing interest for months.. until one day I posted a pic at an event and she commented wanted to go.. she counterinvited me to her moms party with her best friend there and I didn’t get to communicate w/ her much.. but worked the mom and best friend.. she’s becoming more receptive in time..I asked her out for these two weekends and..Her birthday weekend she was sick than she has a event to watch her mom perform. She has been very receptive to text but he hasn’t confirmed with me since her mom is performing this weekend.. is she interested? Friend zoned? should I continue to pursue?

  22. Marcos April 14, 2017 at 5:46 PM - Reply

    Hi name is marcos montesano age is 42 ? And no grilfriend

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