During my life, I’ve disliked a lot of people. However, the reason I disliked them has changed dramatically over the past few years.
And even more so, the way I’ve dealt with those people has changed even more dramatically.
Let me go over some stories in my life that will really help explain.
When I Was Young
Back in high school, I wasn’t even consciously aware that I didn’t like someone (most of the time).
I would smoke weed and hang out with a bunch of random people and I would think that we were friends.
I didn’t dislike them, but I didn’t like them either.
I wasn’t smart enough to realize what the definition of a friend was.
The older I got, I slowly started to see that just because I hung out with someone, doesn’t make them a friend, (and doesn’t mean I even liked them either).
A true friend is pretty rare to come by, especially these days.
Even if you find someone who is “cool”, they can still be a loser in many other ways.
Two Different Kinds of Losers
You might think that there is only one kind of loser – the socially awkward kid who doesn’t have any friends.
But there is another kind of loser who is much worse – the life loser.
The life loser is someone who is extremely unhappy with their life, and instead of doing something to change it, they just make excuses and sit on the internet being negative all day.
Go on to any forum, reddit, or youtube video, and you’ll see endless amount of arguing about the stupidest shit.
These people are so unhappy that they dedicate their lives trying to make other people feel like shit too. It’s the only thing that relieves some of their sadness.
And the worst part is that they actually look forward to continuing their stupid arguments. They will never end the argument because the argument is the only thing to distract them from their pathetic life.
The number one way to spot a life loser is to see how easily they get mad, in both real life and online.
Emotionally healthy people don’t give a shit if something makes them upset. In fact, they don’t usually get upset because they are positive people and have more important things to do.
What’s even more annoying, is that some of these life losers have brief moments when they want to make a change, but they only commit for one week!
Whether it be losing weight, getting laid, running a business, etc, they’re all going to take a massive amount of time and dedication to accomplish.
They end up quitting and trying again for one week every few months or so.
It’s mind-boggling that they think that success is just magically going to happen overnight.
I’ll respect you a lot more if you just commit to being a loser. Don’t do this back and forth nonsense of one week on, one week off. It’s pathetic and you look like an idiot.
My Last Semester Of College
When I moved to Florida for my junior year of school, I stupidly lived on campus. This led to my whole building being weirdo transfer kids – the socially awkward kind of loser.
After that lame experience, I moved off-campus in May to be around more people my age and that were at least cool enough to party.
At first, my off-campus move was good and I was meeting cooler people. My roommates we’re all a significant upgrade from my last ones, and everything was going great.
However, I noticed one of my roommates had some serious problems. He acted like the boss (even though I could tell he was extremely insecure and unhappy), and had the other two roommates following his every move like puppets.
He was a classic life loser – but amplified to a whole different level. I’ve never met someone as fucked up as he was.
Anyway, he slowly tried to convert me into his little bullshit regime, but I wasn’t going to play his game.
One day I simply told him to fuck off and that I didn’t want anything to do with him.
I’m positive no-one had ever voiced their true opinion to him because he completely unraveled.
He couldn’t deal with one kid not liking him and he embarrassed the crap out of himself trying to get me to be friends with him again.
It was pretty funny watching him lose his shit as I waited until the semester ended to leave the apartment and get that loser out of my life.
So how do you deal with people you don’t like?
Don’t feel bad, don’t apologize, just do it.
I understand it’s scary and you think that having friends you don’t like is better than having no friends at all, but trust me it’s not.
It might be lonely at first, but the amount you will grow without toxic losers in your life is priceless.
The classic saying of, “You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with”, is 100% true.
You should only be hanging out with people that have the same goal as you.
Align yourself with those people, and work on your goal.
And like I said before, don’t worry if it’s a little lonely at first. Work on your goal, and you will start to enjoy your time alone.
Once you accomplish your goal, it will open the doors for you to connect with people who have accomplished that goal too.
Trimming The Fat
When I was younger I used to be obsessed with having a lot of contacts in my phone.
I would tie the number of contacts to my sense of self worth, and no matter how high the number got I would never be satisfied.
Now, it’s exactly the opposite.
I enjoy cutting losers out of my life and I only talk to a very small group of people. I am always trimming the fat, because I don’t want any losers infecting my life.
It’s not a coincidence that I’ve accomplished so much in these past few years, and a lot of it is attributed to the fact that I dissociated myself with losers.
Well guys there you have it.
You don’t have to pretend to like people you don’t like anymore.
And it’s not like you have to break up with them either, all you have to do is stop talking to them.
Once you do this, a huge monkey will be lifted off your back. You will think clearer, and have more time to focus on what matters.
Let me know how it goes for you.
Catch ya next week – Brian