“I need to get a girlfriend. If I had a girlfriend all my problems would go away. Why can’t I get a girlfriend?”
These thoughts would encompass my mind ever since I was in middle school until I got my first official girlfriend when I was 18.
If you’ve never had a girlfriend before, I’m sure many of you feel the same way.
Don’t worry, it’s totally normal.
The reason this desire is so powerful is because you’ve never had the experience before. You see other kids with girlfriends and it looks like their lives are perfect.
You might ask yourself, “Why can’t that be me?”
It could be a variety of reasons, but one bad trait that is common between everyone is desperation.
We let one girl that we like control our happiness and we become obsessed. It’s called one-itis and I used to get it all the time.
When I got home from school (and during school) I would analyze every single conversation I had with the girl and try to figure out my move for the next day.
I would stalk her on Facebook and think about how great it would be to be in a relationship with her.
This obsessiveness not once resulted with her (5+ different girls) becoming my girlfriend.
Obviously, this kind of behavior is not good for your chances with the girl as well as your overall sanity. The reason is because your reeking desperation.
Girls are masters at picking up on non verbal signals, and if your thinking about how much you love this girl, she’s going to know it without you saying it.
Since she knows she can have you and you’d do anything for her, she diverts her attention to other guys where she has to make an effort. Girls love the chase and want to work for a guy that doesn’t want a relationship. They absolutely don’t want a guy thats likes them. They want a guy that isn’t interested in them (ironic, huh?).
I remember the first guy that told me this and I didn’t believe him. I thought that there was no way that makes any sense.
It doesn’t make any sense, but he was/is right. Psychology is a very strong discipline and if you want to game women, you have to game the psychology.
Fixing The Problem:
Ok so you realize why your previous strategy wasn’t working, now how do you fix it?
1. Sleeping with girls that you don’t know
2. Friend-zoning girls that you do know
Number one is important because sleeping with girls gives you confidence, experience, and takes girls off the proverbial pedestal. All of which are key to changing your one-itis mindset.
Number two is where getting a girlfriend comes into play. When you friend-zone a girl they’re going to start chasing and putting effort into you. It’s going to be the exact opposite of what they used to do to you.
You’re going to get all the attention and you’re quickly going to see why girls love doing it.
Friend-zone as many girls as you can and make them work for your time and availability. Make them think that there’s no chance in hell that you like them any more than a friend. Wait for them to text you, wait for them to ask you to hang out, and they’ll eventually make a move on you.
Hookup with each girl that does this to you but don’t make anything official. Again, wait for her to say something first.
If she say’s she likes you and wants to be more than friends, you can either agree if you like her or say your not ready for a relationship yet and make her a fuckbuddy. You have all the power; you make the decision.
If you’ve never been in a relationship before, I highly encourage you do so. You’ll have a lot of sex and you’ll feel more confident than you’ve ever felt before. You’ll also never have to wonder what having a girlfriend is like anymore. Don’t get too attached though, always give her less attention than she gives you.
DISCLAIMER: Sleeping with random girls that you’ve just met and friend-zoning girls that you already know, is directly correlated with how attractive and cool you are.
Alright guys that’s it for tonight.
Like I mentioned earlier, don’t expect a girlfriend to fix all of your problems. I thought that once I got a girlfriend my life would be perfect. It was at first, but after the initial wave of happiness I realized that I still wasn’t where I wanted to be in life. I then (subconsciously) started treating my girlfriend really badly because I was so unhappy and I wanted to make myself feel better. Don’t get into that situation.
Even if you get a girlfriend, always keep improving yourself and focus on what you want to achieve in life. A girlfriend should just be one small part of that.